How to Use Prostate Dildos
Prostate dildos are designed to massage your prostate—a walnut-sized gland located in front of the rectum (toward the root of the dick) and just below the bladder. It’s essentially the “male G-spot”. Prostate dildos are some of the best sex toys you can use to stimulate the P-spot.
Use a generous amount of lube and anus massage if needed. Then insert the dildo in the anus and press it against the front wall of the rectum to stimulate the prostate. We will overview several ways to stimulate the P-spot below.
How to reach prostate orgasm

Prostate is a walnut-sized gland located in front of the rectum that can make men reach orgasm even when slightly stimulated
The goal of using a prostate dildo is to reach a prostate orgasm but not many people know how to achieve that. Here are a few tips for reaching prostate orgasm:
- Relax your body
- Wash/clean your anus area thoroughly
- Apply plenty of lube
- Lay on your back with your knees close to the chest. Alternatively, assume a doggy or spooning position
- You can use your finger to locate the prostate first
- Once you find it, insert the prostate dildo and gently hit the spot repeatedly until you reach an orgasm
If it’s your first time, you may need an anal stretcher or a prostate massager to prepare your anus for a prostate dildo. If you are open to any of these options, you can check our lists of the best anal stretchers and the best prostate massagers.
Safety tips
- Here are some safety tips to get you through your hunt for prostate orgasm:
- Clean yourself thoroughly with a warm shower before you start your hunt
- Always wash your prostate dildo before and after every use
- Always relax the muscles around your anus before you insert the dildo
- Use plenty of lube
- Only use a dildo of the right size; shouldn’t be too thick or long for your level
How to Pick the Best Prostate Dildos
Below, we will discuss the factors you need to consider in the ideal prostate dildo:
Curve
As you already know, the prostate sits at an angle inside the rectum toward the dick’s root. So, your regular, straight dildo won’t be good enough to reach the P-spot. Little wonder the best prostate dildos are curved with the sole aim of targeting and reaching the prostate. The better the curve, the better the stimulation.
Hence, you must check a prostate dildo’s curve before buying it. That will save you from a lot of trouble. Good thing is, rightly curved dildos are not scarce. For example, the head of the Aneros Progasm Classic dildo sports a slight curve that seeks out the prostate. We find Aneros manufactutrer trustworthy when it comes to stimulating the P-spot hands-free, so we advice you looking at our list of the best Aneros prostate massagers. Likewise, the njoy Pure Wand boasts a curve design of its own.
Insertable length

Prostate dildos aren’t that long in size due to the main stimulus being the curved shaft
When talking about a sex toy you will have to shove inside your ass, you must know the insertable length is very important. This length effectively determines how much of a dildo can enter your ass. Since the aim here is to hit the P-spot, there is no need to go for an extremely long tool.
Nevertheless, the choice is in your hands. After all, there are many size options on the market. You’ll need to choose based on your preference or what suits your body. As an experienced user, you may not mind opting for the 7.5-inch Blush Novelties Dr. Skin dildo. But a model like the 5-inch Tantus Compact dildo will be a better choice if you are a beginner.
Circumference
A dildo’s circumference is pretty much the full lap around the sex toy. And the dildo’s girth is a measure of the circumference. Essentially, the circumference determines how much the dildo fills your ass up. Surely, this is something you will be interested in.
If you are not new to anal play, you’ll probably want a big circumference to fill you up (the 5.5-inch Fleshlight Ryan Driller dildo is a good example). However, that will most likely not be the case if you are new to the world of anal exploration. You’ll probably want an option like the 2-inch Tantus Compact dildo or the 3.4-inch Tantus Adam dildo.
Ultimately, choose a circumference that will work for you.
Materials

You can choose any material that feels comfortable, silicone dildos offer realistic feel and metal can fit for temperature stimulation
Buying a prostate dildo without considering its material will be an unwise move—one you might regret later on. So, let’s help you avoid that by discussing the various materials used in making prostate dildos. Silicone is the most popular material and is widely regarded as the best, mostly because it is soft, smooth, body-safe, non-porous, and easy to clean.
However, silicone prostate dildos like the Tantus Adam dildo tend to be more expensive than those made from other materials. Stainless steel/metal is another popular material that boasts high quality, thanks to being non-porous, body-safe, and easy to clean. The njoy Pure Wand is a good example of a stainless steel dildo with these qualities. However, metal dildos can be too rigid.
PVC (Polyvinyl Chloride) is another impressive material but it is porous, which can make cleaning difficult. Other common materials include jelly/rubber, ABS plastic, TPR (Thermoplastic Rubber)/TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer), etc. Clearly, these materials have their pros and cons, so you’ll have to choose the one that you find most beneficial.
Durability
Durability is another important consideration you need to make in your quest for the best prostate dildo. The best pointer to durability is the material used in making a dildo. Materials such as silicone, stainless steel, and a few others can be trusted to last long. So, you have to be careful with the material you end up choosing because it will determine how long your dildo lasts.
Flexibility
A prostate dildo is either flexible or rigid. Rigid dildos can be a bit difficult to use but flexible dildos like the Tantus Compact and the Blush Novelties Dr. Skin are easier to use when targeting the prostate.
The flexibility allows you to twist and turn the dildo for better stimulation.
However, you should try to avoid a prostate dildo that is too flexible because that might make stimulation less intense and pleasurable.