Last updated: January 28, 2024Whether you shop for your sex toys online or in a dedicated shop, you may have noticed that there are literally dozens of dildo options to choose from. These include soft silicone models, hard glass pieces, and both vaginal and anal toys. There are also several different sizes available in a huge array of colors, so you can get a variety of them to use at home.
The downside is that not everyone knows how to ride a dildo. Though you may think it is rather straightforward, doing it the wrong way can cause pain and even injury to various areas of your body. Beginners need to learn the right technique to avoid these issues while more advanced toy owners may want to expand their usage without hurting themselves. Either way, learning how to ride a dildo properly can give you a wonderful, enjoyable experience both on your own and with a partner using any dildo you wish to try out.
Before you learn how to use a dildo, first you need to choose the right one to give you the stimulation and pleasure you want. There are a variety of types to choose from, each of which offers different sensations as you use them.
The most commonly used dildo types are the average-sized ones that are about the same size and shape as a man’s erect penis. These are great for beginners since they ease you into the world of sex toys without forcing you to experience more girth than your body can handle in the early stages of pleasure.
Once you’ve tried out these types, you can increase the thickness and length gradually until you know which one you prefer. The larger toys also give you a fuller feel, stretching you out on the inside, though you may have to work your way up to the largest sizes to be sure that you’re comfortable with such a large dildo.
There are also a variety of hard dildo options made of materials like glass, wood, or steel. These offer hard stimulation, so if this is what you like, one of these options may be a good one to try out. The glass and steel ones also have the added benefit of temperature play, so you can warm them up or cool them down before insertion for new, exciting sensations.
There are also several vibrating or thrusting models available that do much of the work for you, so you can lay back and relax while they pleasure you or hand off control to someone else. Many of them include rabbit ears for clitoral stimulation as well for double the pleasure.
As with a real live partner, you can’t just jump into the action with a dildo, no matter what type and size you use. You should similarly prepare for your pleasurable sessions to be sure you are comfortable and ready to accept these delightful toys into your most private areas.
Many people like to set the mood in their bedrooms, using some fresh sheets. You can also dim the lights or turn them off if that’s what you prefer. Some scented candles or incense are also a nice addition, especially those with sensual scents. You do need to be sure they are positioned carefully away from any flammable items and out of reach of your various body parts in case you have a more vigorous session than you expect.
Music is also a nice addition to your bedroom activities. You can choose whatever kind you like, to stimulate the mood that you’re trying to create.
If you live alone, you won’t have to worry about any unexpected visitors to your bedroom but you should still lock any exterior doors to prevent any surprise entries. Those who live with others should also lock their bedroom doors to keep roommates or family members from letting themselves into your room while you’re in a compromising position.
After you get your room ready for action, you may want to get your body ready as well. Warming up before you start using the toy will get those lubricating juices going to make insertion and use much easier and more pleasurable. If your body doesn’t produce enough of this natural lubrication, you can buy a bottle of lube for use with your toys to reduce discomfort. Some toys need specific lubes, though, so be sure to check which one is safe to use with your dildo of choice.
There are a few positions you can try out with your dildo to give yourself the pleasure you’re looking for. Laying on your back is the most common position since it allows you to bend your knees and lift your legs however you like to give you the perfect G-spot stimulation. You can add a pillow beneath your buttocks or hips for easier access to the necessary parts.
Some people also like to lie face down on their bed, reaching beneath themselves or over their backs to move and thrust the dildo. The pillow beneath your hips works well in this position as well since it lifts your buttocks into the air, allowing you a better angle to reach and control the dildo.
You can also lie on your side, pressing your legs together with the toy inside you. This is easier than the face-down position, plus it makes the toy you’re using feel larger than it is. You can bend your knees or straighten your legs as you see fit for comfort and stimulation.
A sitting position is also one you may want to try out. This doesn’t mean you have to actually be sitting down, you just position your body as if you are by placing your feet against a wall or table in front of you. This gives you full access to your dildo and your private areas, plus gives you the option of adding visual stimulation on television or a device.
Suction cup dildos also offer several different positioning options, which we will discuss in the next section.
One handy feature that is included with several different sex toys is the suction cup base. The Lifelike Lover Classic Realistic Dildo 6 Inch is just one of these toys, plus it has a bendable shaft that makes it even more versatile. The suction cup dildos are especially handy since they allow you to attach the dildo to a variety of smooth surfaces for hands-free use.
Though there are only a few areas on your body that you could stick a suction cup dildo into, there are several surfaces to choose from, so you can enjoy these toys in almost any room of your home, provided you have the privacy to use them as you see fit. A lot of the areas you can stick the suction cup dildo to also work for both vaginal and anal penetration, so you can test both these options out.
The most common area to use your suction cup dildo is in the bedroom, which gives you a few different options on where to stick it. One option is your nightstand, though you may need to clear everything off of it to make room and prevent a mess. This works best with the corner of the nightstand positioned between your thighs and your hands placed near the middle of it. Desks also work well for this as long as it is the right height for your body to fit comfortably over it.
You may also want to try the headboard of a bed, though it may be difficult to position yourself for a good vaginal experience, though it is better when used anally. You can also stick the dildo to a hard wooden or plastic chair. You can’t use this for a proper thrust but you can use shallow thrusts and grinding techniques for those pleasurable sensations.
Those with full-length mirrors in their bedrooms can also stick their suction cup dildos on one of these. This gives you the bonus of allowing you to see what you’re doing from more than one angle. A bedroom wall also gives you the same positioning but without the reflection.
You can try sticking the dildo to the shower wall, though you need to make sure you have room to bend and move properly to hit the right spots. You can also stick it to the edge of your tub, though you do need to be careful since this positioning requires you to straddle the tub, which can cause injuries if you slip while you’re using it.
You can also try out your toilet seat, using it in a similar fashion as you would a hard chair, plus the rounded sides of the toilet seat may make it a bit more comfortable. The smooth flat surface is also great for securing the suction cup, plus it allows for comfortable vaginal and anal use.
The flat tile or laminate floor of a bathroom is also a good spot, providing you keep it clean enough to want to sit on during these sensual sessions. This one is a bit tricky since you need a toy that is long enough to hit the right spots while you’re on your knees or sitting cowgirl style. You also may need something to hold onto for the latter position.
Though the kitchen isn’t the best place for dildo use if you live with other people, it can be a good room to try out if you live alone. You can suction your dildo to the edge of a counter for some forward-facing action, holding the edge of the counter for some extra support. A thin strip of wall in this room or any other area of your home is also great for both vaginal and anal play since it allows you to bend your knees to find the perfect position.
The laundry room is another area you can try out if you’re feeling adventurous and don’t have to worry about anyone interrupting you. You can use these machines without them running or turn them on for some extra vibrations to add to the fun. They can be a bit noisy due to the metal walls of the machines but if there is no one around to hear it, it shouldn’t matter. You can also put on some music to cover it up to prevent distracting yourself from the enjoyment.
No matter which one of the many areas you choose to stick your suction cup dildo to, there are some specific techniques that you can use to really enjoy your masturbation sessions. These depend on whether your chosen spot positions the dildo vertically or horizontally.
When you stick a suction cup to a vertical surface, like a bedroom wall, a shower wall, or a door, there are two options you can choose when it comes to a technique for vaginal use. The dildo needs to be posable or at least flexible enough for you to be able to use it this way so you can tilt it upwards to slide it inside of you. This allows for some g-spot stimulation, as well as some clitoral stimulation if you use it right.
There are some disadvantages to this position, though, since it forces you to arch your back away from the wall, plus it puts a lot of pressure on your knees since they will be doing a lot of the work to hold you up.
You can also use the suction cup dildos placed vertically for some anal masturbation. This is a bit easier on your back but it can be tricky to use it without something in front of you to hold onto when you’re in a standing position.
You can try using it at a lower position on the wall while on your hands and knees, giving you more support in this area. The issue with this position is that your feet may get in the way since they will be up against the wall as well, limiting your movements. That’s why the thin strip of wall is a better option for this position since it allows you to put your feet or knees on either side of the wall for a more comfortable session.
Horizontal suction cup spots, like chairs, toilet seats, tub edges, or nightstands offer a bit more control during your sessions. Some of them allow you to sit right on the dildo, moving and thrusting as you see fit to give you the stimulation you need for those amazing orgasms. This also increases the comfort level since it doesn’t put a ton of pressure on your lower back.
Of course, this type of position isn’t without its flaws. You need to get the right height to allow you to move as you like without straining yourself, so try out a few different areas to find the perfect one to fit the height of your specific body parts to give you the perfect experience.
As with the suction cup dildos, there are a variety of ways that you can use a regular vaginal dildo, though you’ll need your hands involved in the movements instead of focusing mostly on how you move your body.
One option is the deep thrust, which means moving the dildo along the whole length of your vagina. Though this offers intense stimulation with all dildos, a textured one offers even more pleasure. This is best done with a more rigid dildo since the softer toys won’t hit the vaginal wall with the right amount of pressure. Curved or posable ones are best for this.
You can also try short thrusts, which is one of the better techniques since the dildo hits the most sensitive area of your vagina. Short and rapid movements are best since it is easier on your vagina and your wrists, so both areas can last a bit longer. Even if you’re dildo is quite long, you don’t need to use all of it for a great time.
Whether your dildo is curved or straight, you can use a rocking motion to create an angle that puts more pressure on the bottom wall of the vagina. This gives you a similar sensation to what you’d get when thrusting but adds some clitoral stimulation as well. Of course, you need a softer toy that can handle this movement without hurting you.
Turning the dildo during use rotates the head on the end of it, which can give you some great internal stimulation after you’ve located the g-spot. It can also be used to tease you a bit before you even insert it to help you warm up before the real action starts.
Milking the G-spot is one way to enjoy your hard glass or metal dildos. The firm texture and rigid shape allow you to drag the head of the dildo across this spot as you pull it out. Then you can push it against the anterior vaginal wall as you move it back inside. This creates an intense amount of stimulation that will drive you wild.
These dildos also allow you to try out some temperature play. Not everyone enjoys the feeling of sliding an icy dildo into their warmest areas. The shock can ruin a good experience, so changing the toy’s temperature before you use it can eliminate this jarring feeling.
To warm up your hard dildo, you can place it into a bowl of warm water for a few minutes or just run it under the warm water coming out of the faucet. Once it is at a more comfortable temperature, you can use it as you see fit.
There are also those who actually prefer to start with a cooler toy, so doing the same thing with cool water instead of warm water can give you this experience. You don’t need to insert it when it is this temperature but you may enjoy the sensation of the cooler toy on other areas of your body, like your nipples. Try out both techniques to see which one you like better.
Be sure to be a bit more careful with rigid dildos than the softer ones. The hard materials can cause too much pressure and may bruise you if you’re too rough with them, so take your time and see how much pressure you can handle before you get too enthusiastic with these types of toys.
Vibrating and thrusting dildos come in all shapes and colors, including the realistic-looking Lifelike Lover Luxe Thrusting and Rotating Dildo 8-inch model. These can be used in many of the same ways as regular dildos but they do a lot of the work for you. The vibrations give you extra stimulation and the addition of the thrusting and rotating movements means your hands need to hold it in place but don’t have to do much else until it’s time to change positions of the dildo or your body.
When you’re using a dildo, you can add some extra stimulation to the mix to make your experiences even more pleasurable. There are a few different ways you can add clitoral stimulation when using a dildo.
First, you can insert the dildo into your vagina as usual while using your fingers on your clitoris for double the pleasure. The suction cup dildos allow you to ride them when they are attached to a chair or other flat surface, so you can grind your clitoris against it for some extra pleasure. Curved or posable dildos can also be positioned to rub against this area as you use them internally to pleasure both of your most sensitive areas at once.
For anal stimulation as you use your dildo vaginally, you’ll need a separate toy. This means getting your hands on a butt plug, so if you don’t have one of these in your collection, you may need to do some shopping. Insert the plug into your nether region while using the dildo vaginally. You can use a normal butt plug or get a vibrating one for a more exciting experience.
Dildos aren’t just for women. There are several dildos for men on the market that come in various sizes, shapes, and colors, so you can get the perfect one based on your preferences and experience level. There are also several anal dildos available that are designed to be comfortable when specifically inserted into this area of your body, so you have several to choose from.
When riding a dildo for men, be sure to use plenty of lubricant since this area doesn’t create its own. Start with smaller models and work your way up to the larger ones when you are ready. You don’t need to insert it too far to hit that P-spot, so take your time to find it and then massage it using the dildo.
Using a curved toy is a good idea since the curved end makes it easier to hit the P-spot. Rock it back and forth against your prostate as slowly or quickly as you like to give you the pleasure you’re looking for.
You don’t have to use a dildo on your own if you have a significant other you want to try out some couple’s play with. One method is using double penetration, with the dildo inserted into either the vagina or the anus and the man’s penis in the other hole. You do need to be careful when trying out this method to avoid injury, so take things slow to be sure everything is done correctly.
Many dildos can be used with a harness as well, so the lady can strap it on and try out some pegging with their male partner. This is also a good method for two women since the harness allows for both vaginal and anal penetration, allowing you to use it however you like.
There are so many different types and colors of dildos available that it can be hard to choose the right one. Once you make the difficult decision on which ones to buy to create or add to your collection, you need to know how to ride a dildo to be sure you don’t injure yourself instead of pleasuring yourself with it.
Luckily, there are as many different ways to use a dildo as there lots of toys available, so you can try out several different methods to find the ones that you like best. You can hold the dildo with your hands and move it as you see fit or get yourself a suction cup dildo for some hands-free play, even when you’re by yourself. You can also get yourself some anal models to try out safely on your own or with a partner. No matter which method or model you use, you’re sure to enjoy yourself.
