Last updated: February 20, 2024Most of us by now are familiar with penetrative sex. In basic terms, a penis enters a vagina or a penis enters an anus. It’s simple, mostly straightforward, and highly pleasurable. But those looking to expand on their experience may start wondering what does double penetration feel like?
Interestingly, a local study by The Georgia Straight newspaper cited that while 30% of women interviewed had engaged in a threesome, 60% wanted to in the future. While double penetration, or DP, is often seen as a scary endeavor not meant for the average person, when performed correctly, anyone who is slightly adventurous will be able to experience it. In actuality, there are many forms of double penetration. We’ll walk you through everything you need to know about this umbrella of sex positions, and provide advice so it is as comfortable as possible.
Before we get started, it’s important to understand that there are actually many different forms of double penetration. While they all have the same thing in common, being penetrated in two different orifices, the combinations you can achieve are quite varied.
Perhaps the most stereotypical, vaginal + anal double penetration involves a woman being penetrated in her vagina and anus. If you decide to engage in this style, there is a lot that needs to happen ahead of time for the act itself to be comfortable.
First, you need to be an expert at anal play. Having both orifices, which are right next to each other, be penetrated, can lead to an intense sensation. There is a lot of stretching that needs to happen and in order to avoid any tearing or pain, your anus should be familiar with either toys or another person.
Don’t enter into vaginal + anal double penetration until you are full comfortable with anal sex.
Many people tend to forget that oral sex counts as penetration, and when combined with vaginal sex, it is definitely a form of double penetration.
If you are new to the world of DP, then this may be a good place to start. While there are some logistics to consider, there is a good chance that as a woman you are familiar with both vaginal and oral sex, and so may feel more comfortable with this form.
Another option with oral sex is the use of a chin dildo. Essentially, this is a strap on that has a dildo on one end a mouth gag on the other.
While not as common as vaginal + oral, anal + oral should be considered if you are comfortable with anal play. Double penetration is a sex act performed by both men and women and while women can certainly engage in anal + oral, it is usually men who engage in this process.
Again, with anal sex, be sure that you or your partner is comfortable and familiar with the act.
So often we think of double penetration as necessitating the inclusion of a third person. This can be overwhelming as this issue of trust and communication become more important than the sex act itself. However, if you want to experience the thrill of double penetration but aren’t comfortable with opening your bedroom to another person, the use of sex toys is the way to go.
There are many sex toys that can be used vaginally, anally, and orally, to mimic the sensations you would find with another person.
When going this route, start out slowly and make sure both people are comfortable.
Those that don’t have a partner available for double penetration don’t have to miss out on the sensation. There are actually plenty of sex toys that can be used for this purpose. We suggest something flexible, such as a double dildo. Made from flexible silicone, you can insert it both vaginally and anally and have control over how deep it is.
Before starting out, however, play around with the toys and really get comfortable with them. Some can be intimidating and it can be a real learning curve trying to use a toy on your own. With a bit of practice, however, you can experience the sensation of double penetration.
Before you take the next step into double penetration, it’s nice to know what you’re getting into. Here are a few descriptions of how it may feel. Just remember that everyone is different and no matter how you feel, it is normal.
While every woman will have a different experience, here are a few common threads of how it will feel.
First of all, double penetration feels good. This is the consensus from most women. The feeling of “fullness” is often discussed in relation to vagina + anal DP. Between these two orifices is a thin wall of tissue, called the perineum. It is full of nerve endings and having it stimulated on both sides is amazing.
As for orgasming, women report experiencing some of their best ones yet. Everything is heightened and the feelings are overwhelming. If anything, it can be hard to keep going as most women report that it takes a lot less time to reach an orgasm with this method.
Vagina + anal penetration is all about rhythm. Get into the right groove and it’s great. If not, there’s a lot of bumping around that happens. Finding rhythm can take time and it’s important, as a woman, to use your voice. There is a good chance that the first time, and especially the act of insertion can be uncomfortable. While this is normal, if the feeling becomes painful, you should stop, take a break, and start again.
As for vagina + oral penetration, the very act of communication can be hard as your mouth is otherwise occupied. Don’t feel like you need to continue if you need to adjust or change positions. Furthermore, with this type of penetration, it can be hard to focus on your own pleasure and orgasm if you are working to bring another person to orgasm. Therefore, breaks may be necessary.
Double penetration often involves one woman and two men. While the woman needs to be completely comfortable, the men involved also need to have their needs met.
Seeing your partner be completely satisfied is one of the benefits of double penetration. Even before you think of your own satisfaction, many couples turn to DP in order to satisfy the needs of the woman.
As for what men experience, the good is an intense sexual experience. If you’re still nervous about engaging so intimately with another man, you can try a threesome without DP. This way you get to play around a bit and test your comfort limits.
Finally, one important aspect of double penetration is control. While ultimately it is the woman who needs to be in control of her own body, it is often the men who set the pace and there is power in knowing you are completely filling both the body and the needs of your partner.
Expect some penis on penis touching. This is especially true when it comes to vagina + anal DP. The act of insertion is definitely not as glamorous as you may envision and the perineum wall is very thin. You will be able to feel the other man.
This isn’t necessarily bad but it is something you need to be comfortable with. Even with vagina + oral DP, you will be seeing another man’s penis and this can’t weird you out.
The biggest takeaway is that the person you invite to join you should be someone you are comfortable with at the least, and hopefully even someone you are attracted to. The more at ease you are, the more pleasure there will be.
Those just entering the world of double penetration may feel more comfortable with toys. There are many to use to start you off on this new world of discovery.
Sex toys come in all sizes and shapes. No matter what your preference, there is a toy that will help you feel good. Toys also have a vibrating function which adds an extra layer of excitement.
For example, the Tracey Cox Supersex Vibrating Butt Plug has a remote that a partner can be in charge of. This way he gets that element of control while the woman gets maximum pleasure.
Toys also have the added benefit of not being human. One of the biggest obstacles to DP is that you have to invite a third person into the mix. This can be quite overwhelming, especially if one person is open to the idea but the other person isn’t. Toys, then, are a great compromise.
Toys feel great but they are not people. There is a certain quality that even the most sophisticated toy just can’t replicate.
Furthermore, you may be wanting what comes with inviting a third person. The extra sense of intimacy, the newness, the foreplay that accompanies sex. Sex toys are predictable, which is nice, but if you are craving a bit of unpredictability, at some point they just won’t be able to satisfy you anymore.
While a vagina may naturally secrete lubrication, an anus does not. Furthermore, sex toys need plenty of lube. You do not want to hurt your partner as this can cause pain and even tearing. Instead, use plenty of lube.
There are plenty of good-quality lubes to consider and you may want to try out a few before finding one that has the right texture and scent. Most lubes are now water-based, such as the Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lubricant. If you are using sex toys, you should definitely use a water-based lube so it doesn’t destroy the toy. Furthermore, water-based lubes mean you don’t have to worry about allergies and they are easy to clean up.
There is a lot of trust that goes into the act of double penetration. As a woman you need to set boundaries ahead of time and not be afraid to communicate when something doesn’t feel right. As a man, you need to be comfortable with another man again, don’t be afraid to stop if you aren’t comfortable.
For a lot of people, double penetration is just one part of a threesome. If it isn’t working for you in the moment, there are plenty of other ways you can be satisfied.
When performed correctly, in a safe environment with plenty of practice, double penetration should not hurt. However, you should expect a level of discomfort when you first start out.
Having two penises so close together inside of you is a lot to handle. As well, it can be more than awkward getting into the right position.
Don’t let this discomfort dismay you, though. The key is to start small, using butt plugs and then other anal dildos. Once you have mastered these sensations, you can dive into having two men satisfy you.
There are many positions that work well with double penetration and it all comes down to personal preference. For those just starting out, the cowgirl position works well. Start with the woman positioning herself on top of a man for vaginal intercourse. Then, the other man would enter for anal penetration.
One important technique is to get firmly secure with single penetration. Make sure everything lines up before having your second orifice filled. You might also want to roleplay beforehand. Sex needs movement and while one position might seem good, you may discover that there isn’t enough space for all partners to move comfortably.
Finally, an important technique to consider is the use of pillows or cushions. If you find your movements are restrained, use a pillow or specific sex cushion to prop yourself into the right angle. This is helpful is something feels uncomfortable at first. It could just be that the angle needs to be adjusted slightly.
We hope that you are now more familiar with the types of double penetration and a few tips on how to make each encounter more successful. As always, trust and communication are the most important. Each person involved needs to express their consent and if something isn’t working, it’s ok to stop. Beyond this, though, have fun and don’t be afraid to experiment. For those wondering what does double penetration feel like, we suggest you start with your fingers, move into toys, and then find willing participants to make your dream a reality.
